Do you ever feel like you can’t do anything right?

I remember when I first started meditating; I spent probably a year thinking I was doing it wrong, because I wasn’t doing it just like my mentor was. I didn’t have an eye mask (and I wasn’t going to get one), I sat with my legs crossed (when apparently you shouldn’t because it blocks energy flow or something), I didn’t get up at the butt crack of dawn just to meditate. I did it in a way that fit my life and with the intention of improving my life and myself.

I battled with thinking that I did my business wrong, because I ended up burned out. It took me about 18 months to realize that it wasn’t that I was bad at business, I was bad about setting boundaries, I was bad at letting people take too much from me, and I was bad at recognizing what I valued and prioritizing that.

The truth of the matter is, when I start to think I can’t do anything right, I begin to look at expectations. What does right mean? It wasn’t until I started seeing results with meditation that I realized that I WAS doing it right. For me. When I stopped thinking that I needed to learn completely new business tools and realized I had all the tools I needed, I just needed to make sure my intentions and values were in line, and clients started showing up. I WAS doing it right. For me.

This is why I hold so strongly to the belief that when I’m working with my clients, we need a variety of tools and choices to pick from. I don’t know all the day to day workings of your life. I don’t know exactly what resources are available to you. I don’t know how much time or money you have. Only you do. So I need to provide you with choices and ideas and support in a way that fits your life so you can make the changes we talk about. Because what is right for me, what’s worked for me, may not work exactly the same for you. 

Maybe you need permission to sit with your legs crossed instead of your feet flat on the floor. And, let’s be honest, if we believe in the power of meditation, whether or not my legs are crossed or not is not going to change the outcome, but I digress. Maybe you need to explore how different options feel before you settle on the one that’s right for you. Maybe you need to consult your support network and talk over what you value and what you need in order to move forward.

It is rare that I will insist on doing things only one way. Restriction does not allow us to move freely, so I will not restrict you. I will give you opportunities to explore, choices a plenty, and the support you crave so that when the doubt creeps in, you’ll have the confidence to know you’re doing it right. For you.